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If he wants to have sex with you make it clear you dont do that then nothing will happen that you cant handle, on the other hand if you want to dive into bed with him it should not be a problem. I'm 16 and he is 19 soon to be Just looking for opinions. Answer Save. Favourite answer. Dana R.
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No the age gap isn't bad at all I think you should try and get his number and start talking a lot more and one day just ask him if he wants to go to lunch and maybe later on you guys will get really close and be together :. What do you think of the answers? You can sign in to give your opinion on the answer. Jennifer Lv 4.
Jun 25, so i am dating a 16 and dating a 19 year old. and i have been staying with him for the past month. i am trying to get my aunt to get legal rights over me and i know my dad is going to BLOW this out of the water with the legal papers being sent to his house. and my boyfriend that i've been with for a year now has been in trouble before for dating someone under age but it was all dropped so if. If dating older will make them grow positively as a person, it shouldn't be a problem. If the 19yo is dating the 16 year old because they want to manipulate the 16yo, wants to prey upon the childlike 16yo, because they are mentally immature, or for any other negative reasons, then it's not ok. Sep 30, It is perfectly legal for a 19 year old to date a 12 year old if they want. The law only comes into play if the couple are having sex. Then it is obviously illegal to have sex with a minor so young. However, in many states and many parts of the world the age of consent is But again, that is only relevant if you are in a sexual relationship.
If he can't get a girl his own age, there is something wrong with him. If he's trolling under age girls, there's something wrong with him. He will have all of the power, knowledge and money. Stick with someone who is more like you.
Gregory J. Jerabek. It is not illegal to date someone over 18 if you are still a child; however, any sexual contact would be considered a crime. On the other hand, the entire venture is somewhat foolish. It really does not matter how mature you believe you are. I'll turn 20 three months before she turns 17, and even though that's just three months apart, being a 20 year old dating a 16 year old still makes me feel weird. I certainly don't feel 20, and one year ago I was still in high school, but I can't argue with the numbers, and the numbers say that I'm a creep. When I was 16, I dated a 19 year old. He turned 20 shortly after we started seeing eachother. He ended up being a controlling, creepy, verbally and mentally abusive douche bag, resistant to an injunction against harassment. So yeah, I'd think that a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is weird.
This is too big of a gap. I'm glad your pairing worked out.
I think a lot of it depends on the people involved. When I was 16, I was in no way psychologically mature enough to date a 19 year old, but I do know a few people who were mature enough. This is a pretty grey area because we have legally defined 18 as the line between "childhood" and "adulthood" and made crossing the line quite taboo. I think it highly depends on the maturity of both. No 16 year old is mature like a regular 19 year old.
It's quite simply a matter of the brain not being developed to that point. Aside from my qualms with it, I'd ask the 19 year old: where and with whom are you hanging out that you even meet 16 year olds? To me that implies that you're deliberately seeking out high school girls.
Also: what does a year old offer that someone your age cannot? Maybe they clicked with someone really well and only later learned, that they were only 16, when they already had a mental connection?
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This is my answer, too. My only question would be, to the year-old: why? What does a 16 year old give you that someone your age and, you know, not in high school, could not? That would set off my red-flag-radar. It's not the actual age thing so much as: what is there in common with those 2 ages? Im turning 19 and im a senior in highschool lol, I dont feel to different then the juniors, maybe more mature but we can still connect lol.
You're in the same life stage as the juniors though.
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I think actual age is the less important ct, but rather what stage of life they're in. That's a gap I'd say depends on the individuals - could be an issue, could be not at all an issue. I met my first real boyfriend when I was 16 - he was We dated for nearly two years and I never felt exploited or used or otherwise guilty about any of it.
Sometimes, though, the younger one is, frankly, unable to see if they're being exploited. Like, what would any decent year old have in common with a high schooler, even? And where would they have met, if the year old isn't explicitly seeking out younger girls. The answers to those questions are important and telling, IMO. Like where would 2 people who aren't or, arguably, shouldn't be, in similar life stages meet?
I can't think of anywhere, really. Hell, even just on the street. Literally anywhere. Anywhere where adults meet each other, except for bars or nightclubs. I don't get what's so foreign there. He ended up being a controlling, creepy, verbally and mentally abusive douche bag, resistant to an injunction against harassment.
Dec 17, first of all, no matter you cant believe me, 16 year old, i see them as kids (and i am ) if i want to date a girl, the ones at university look, much much more attractive to me (and my collegues) its actually kinda gross and immoral (i have talked with all my friends) for us to date a 16 year old (which is minor btw) to put it straight. So if you're a year-old, you can feel free to be with anyone who is at least 19 (12 + 7) but not someone who is 1 The (lesser-applied) other side of the rule defines a maximum age.
So yeah, I'd think that a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is weird. Surely there are exceptions to the rule but the majority of adults who date minors are going to be "weird.
Also, where would they possibly meet? To me, it seems like the year old would be intentionally seeking out a younger girl, since they wouldn't really run in the same social circles. So while neither of us associated with the others age group, there were mutual acquaintances that did. It was then facebook. An exceptional anecdote that doesn't excuse anything - either way I agree its gonna involve those kinds of irky 'always with high schoolers' people in some capacity.
Completely depends on the 16 year old and 19 year old in question. When I was 17 my boyfriend was 21 and it worked pretty well, honestly.
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I met my fiance when I was 18 and he was I had just started to study and he was in the process of ending it, but we are very similar in our personality. I have learned a lot from him and I think he from me as well. Plus, personality wise, we are both 5-year-olds on the inside.
It depends on the people. My boyfriend when I was 16 was 19 so I don't really know that I'm in any position to be making moral judgements on that. As an overarching rule yes I'd find it weird, but its really super dependent on the people involved.
Every law I know of regulates sex, not relationship, and furthermore most places dictate an age range in which sex is acceptable for a 16 year old.
Yeah, kinda weird.
Your average sixteen year old is still in high school, living at home, and knows a fairly restricted social world. I'd wonder what he or she has in common with the nineteen year old, who is, despite only a three year difference, likely in a completely different maturity stratosphere. I'm like you. I started dating my high school boyfriend when I was 15 10th gradeand he had just turned 18 12th.
I normally just thought of us as 2 years apart because of school, even though we were almost 3 years apart. Dated until I was It was never weird to me.
But now when I see that same age difference with high school kids, I'm baffled. It's weird. My 17 year brother dated a 14 year old for a little bit, and I just didn't get that. They had a bigger difference in grades than me and my ex, but we're a little closer together in age than us. I still thought it was just super weird and was glad when he dumped her.
I think a lot of it depends on how you know each other and how you met and whether you mutually perceive each other as equals. If you, like, sat next to each other in high school band practices for two years and became friends during this time, that's different than if a year-old was trolling for high schoolers.
That said, when I was 18 and 19 years old, I wasn't comfortable dating minors just on principle.
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I knew I was a legal adult and they were a minor, and I didn't want that kind of responsibility. During those two years, I had two co-workers in my food service job who happened to be minors develop interest in me, and I ordinarily would have been interested in either of them, but I just wasn't comfortable with dating a minor.
I would totally have been open to revisiting the potential relationship a couple of years later though.
I'm 18 With A 15 Year Old Girlfriend!!!
My ex was 16 and I was 19 when we started dating. We knew people would look at us funny, but we'd been good friends for two years already.
We were together for over five years and while I can't say it was the best relationship, we did have a lot of good times and learned how to be good partners to our eventual spouses we both ended up marrying our next SOs.
Honestly, the worst part was dealing with the reactions of other people who didn't know us well - people who did thought we were an amazing couple. We were pretty happy for the most part.
I'd say it depends on the people involved, but it weirds me out if I think about it too much. So you guys were right on the edge of being weird, depending on how close you guys were to your respective birthdays. If we apply standard rounding rules then the acceptable age of But society tends to frown on people, guys especially, over 18 dating a minor who's more than a year younger.
So it really comes down to if your boyfriend was acting like a creeper, or if you two were comparable for each other despite the age gap. The rule doesn't account for your own personal tastes, its more of a general guide for what ages are appropriate for you to date. Like nearly everyone is saying, it depends on the couple. If you're both happy and you're good to each other then I don't see a reason to care about what others think.
Legality sake it's not all that great but other than that I don't judge. Just hope everyone's got a mature outlook.
I was in that relationship. It was weird, but he was an asshat and emotional and mentally abusive. We only had a bit over a two year age difference. I was 19 when I got out of that relationship, stuck with dating older guys. My boyfriend is about 4. But you're right, I would find it weird at 19 if my friend was dating someone in high school.
Yeah, that's weird. The amount of physical, emotional, social, and sexual maturation that happens between sophomore year of high school when people are generally 16 and freshman year of college when people are generally 19 is astounding, and I find it really hard to believe that someone who is a year or two removed from high school has honorable intentions dating an underclassman. Three years isn't that much time in the long run, but when you're a teenager, it's a huge deal.
Well I was 17 and my SO was 23 when we first met, and we've been together for almost 6 years. It just worked for us, so I don't really see anything wrong with a 16 year old dating a 19 year old, it also greatly depends on the people in that relationship I think. Not generally I don't think. I guess it depends on the people involved.
At that age people have a lot of differences in maturity. I dated a 19 year old when I was 16 and it didn't feel weird then and still doesn't feel weird when I think back. Also I think 16 and 19 year olds often aren't really in that different stages of life. My boyfriend and I both were at the same level in school, went to the same bars and clubs, were in the same levels in sports, etc. All very similar. My fiance is older than I am. I am 21 right now and he is Doesn't sound too bad? Point is, the older you get, the less the difference matters.
I think as long as I know that the girl is not tricked into the relationship, or is very mature for her age, I would not see a problem, although I think I would still keep an extra eye out as a parent. Some 16 year olds are mentally very mature, but some still act like preteens and I think that's where the decision has to be made.
Yup, it's weird. A HS kid with someone out of HS I'd wonder why the 19 yr old couldn't get someone their own age, and about their emotional maturity. We started dating a few years ago, so we were still in similar life stages at the time and we just haven't grown apart. I really think it's more based on situation than most comments in this thread are saying. As a 19 year old myself I couldn't date someone younger but could understand, sorta, if that were to happen.
But I do find it weird as this is the age where you start maturing up quickly and prepare yourself for your 20s, whereas 16 year olds are starting a new realm of teenagehood. So there's a bit of an odd gap in maturity.
I still wouldn't think it was weird. It's only 3 years. It depends on the culture.