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I just want to know what random people think about it. Thanks in advance. Be very cautious physically, but I don't see what's wrong with it as long as you respect her and don't take advantage of her.
She made a great I'm 28 and am going down a similar road as you. At first, I was anxious about the age difference and what her parents, as well as my own, would think of the relationship. As far as society goes, age difference is less of a factor now than it was say I met this woman that is 18 and she, unlike many her age, is remarkably mature.
The rule states that it is acceptable for year old women to date men who are up to 46 years old, but in reality, year-old women state that their max acceptable partner age would be less than. May 27, Obviously the first is that a 30 year old dating an 18 year old is dumb. People say that love has doesnt look at age and thats true. But an 18 year old and a 30 year old are so far apart in their lives that all there can really be between them is lust. And the innnitial lust fades pretty quick anyway. May 27, I am an 18 year old male dating a 30 year old female. We have been in a relationship the past 2 months. As often as possible, I will go to her house and we will sleep together and hangout and just have fun. On the weekends when we both do not work, we go out on dates and such. How do I tell my mom I'm in a relationship with a 30 year old?
We get along great and no time we spend together seems to be long enough. We help each other through our defeats and celebrate our victories.
I have shown my emotions to her at the deepest levels and I am very comfortable around her. Her parents approve of me and mine feel the same toward her. You sound as if you have been jaded by the game of love just as I have. There are a few things to look out for though.
An 18 year old may not be as ready for a serious, deep relationship even marriage as soon as a person that is As long as you are willing to take it slow, communicate openly and honestly, and be receptive to her needs as well as your own, I would go for it. Approval from both sets of parents would be nice, but in the end hopefully the only people it will matter to will be you and her. After all, why turn down the idea of a soul mate based on the archaic idea of age differences?
Life's just too short! Since she is 18 years of age, then she is legal, then it should not be a problem. If she was underage, then I would have to tell you hell no, but since she is not then it is okay.
Plus age should not be an issue but how that person makes you feel. Don't let the picture of my avatar fool you. I am a girl, when I was 18, my boyfriend was 30 and it work out pretty well. Actually I have realize that I have better relationships with older men. Since she is 18, it also depends of how mature of a person she really is, and if that maturity can enable her to have the kind of relationship that the both of you want.
If you really like this girl, then go for it. But, if the relationship is as happy and healthy as she says then hopefully her parents will warm to him with some time. Good luck! I am definitely more mature than he is, and sometimes that is a huge problem. Some 18 year olds are very mature, and some are very immature; some 30 year old guys are mature, and some are still living the frat dream. The biggest thing is to make sure you are comfortable with the speed of the relationship and that you are able to see him as an equal.
I would give anyone in ANY relationship the same advice: just keep making sure you are on the same page, and keep communicating.
My sister had low self esteem and little relationship experience sheltered conservative upbringingand she believed her creeper ex when he said no one else would ever love her like he did, or that the best and only way to show adult love was through sex.
There are always exceptions to stereotypes, but there are lots of good reasons why many parents would rightly oppose large age gap relationships too.
Having seen what happened to my sister, I think parents are justified in being a little overprotective at first in situations like this. Marie July 19,am. Maturity comes with age and I have issues with a 30 year old man being with a teenager. There are 19,20,21 year old guys that are mature;the key is to find them. Honestly,what could a 30 year old man have in common with an almost 19 year old girl?
Fairhaired Child July 19,am. Please listen to everyone and really think about what he means to you, what you mean to him. And ask yourself many of the questions that have been posted here that can help you think more about the depth of your relationship.
Best of luck figuring out what you want in life, and facing your parents with the boyfriend. Be cautious, but remember, everyone in the world is different, and things that work for one relationship may not work for a different couple.
Im 18 and dating a 30 year old
Did I mention to watch "Hard Candy"? Because you really should. Don't let your boyfriend watch it with you. AnitaBath July 19,am. I watched it with my significantly older boyfriend at his urging, actually because he loves it himself. Fairhaired child July 19,am. I mean the movie for the predator part - not that she should act like Ellen Paige - but that the movie is a parents worst nightmare and what they fear the whole thing with her friend being killed etc.
On that note I watched it with two of my female friends and one of their then bf now husband who was 12 yrs older than her and took her away to England!
Assured, im 18 and dating a 30 year old amusing idea
Their relationship was sketch to us at first but it shows things can work out. Anyway movie. The guy in the movie is going online and targeting fourteen year olds in chat rooms. Even the predator part is justno.
Nov 20, 16 and dating an 18 year old. Is this illegal? I am 16 and have been dating someone for over a year. He was 17 when we started dating, but is now He is just a little over 2 years . A 30 year old young adult most likely has more experience in the adult world then the other individual just starting but that doesn't mean they can't date or that 18 year old is not ready to make decisions(You know yourself) if your mature or not and maturity has a lot more to do with the individual themselves. Jul 18, An ex of mine (we're both in our early 30's) just married an 18 year old. All I could think was - no woman in her 30's would put up with him not holding a steady job, when he is perfectly capable of doing so, and not providing a stable home for his kids. His life may actually look pretty glamorous to an 18 year old.
Are you trying to say her boyfriend is going to kill her? I understand your thoughts too and can see your point. I just fail to see the logic in how you relate the movie to her current relationship. Last response I promise - the suggestion was for a different viewpoint and so that she could understand why her parents friends internet strangers may get freaked out and worried about the age gap.
Not necessary im 18 and dating a 30 year old interesting. Prompt, where
Internet posts are hard to read between the lines and many things can be read differently by different ppl as is proved often in the many discussions on DW. Edit also I noticed the thumbs and I wanted to say im not thumbing either way on our convo bc I know both of us have valid points and opinions.
Chantelle July 19,pm. I dated a man who was 13 yrs older than me, for almost 6 yrs, I knew him for 7 yrs. I ended the relationship for reasons that had nothing to do with his age.
I was 19 and he was 32 when we first started dating, so I can certainly relate to the situation. I lived alone, had my own life, paid my own bills, worked very hard, and am intelligent. It was extremely unlikely that I would find a 19 year old similar to me. If you two are on the same page, have some similar goals, and care deeply about each other then brace yourself.
I would suggest making the meeting something casual, time limited, and in a situation that brings out the best of you both.
Maybe a quick coffee in a public place before one of you has an appointment. The more time you spend on that initial meeting the more risk of something being said that everyone will later regret. The first time my mom met my then boyfriend, he was still courting me. We happened to live in the same apartment building so I called to ask if he could help me with my groceries.
I was with my mom, he waved happily, made a joke, and then insisted on carrying all the groceries. My mom was immediately impressed with the quick 10 minute encounter because it showed his good nature and how helpful he was, age never entered the equation. I recognized the challenges and felt free to communicate them with my family. Love comes in a lot of different packages and one of the last things I look at when it comes to compatibility is how old the guy is.
Christy July 19,pm. My sister then 25 started to date a man who was 39 years old. Her approach was to dismiss their concerns and act defensive. Show them that you are mature enough to handle a relationship by approaching them like you would any other adult. Poppy July 19,pm. July 19,pm. Dying to be indulged for a moment, but can anyone give me an idea of what type of conversation a year old guy will have with an year old girl?
May 30, Hi, I just turned 30 years old. In the past year, I have dated women as old as 36 and as young as Now, I'm not trying to be a player. I am sincerely trying to meet a girl who really bonds with me. With that being said, what do you think about me dating an 18 year old? She made a great first impression, and I'm going to pursue her anyways. Jan 07, Everything You Need To Know About Dating A Year-Old Man As A Something Girl your day will come something I'm sure you all heard as . I need help, I'm 18 year old female who's dating a guy thats seven years ol I am a year old male who was dating a year old female for 10 months. I am a 19 year old guy talking to a 30 year old .
Dead serious - or you can say, blissfully. Jennifer July 23,pm. Are you serious?
I was 18 and my boyfriend was 30 when we first got together. A huge amount of what made our relationship so special was the fact that we never ran out of things to talk about. Sorry you had so little to contribute to an adult conversation when you were young, but some of us were actually intelligent people with lives going on and an interest in the world around us.
MsMisery July 20,am. Wendy July 20,pm. Two years ago I was in the same situation as you, I was 18, my boyfriend was 33, and I even faced the same problem.
I wondered how they would react, since my friends had not necessarily been giving me a lot of hope based on thier reactions. Firstly, he needs to be just as willing to meet them as you are to have him do so.
I got lucky in that he more than happy to do so, and calm any fears my parents may have about the age difference. Wendy is right in that you cannot get defensive or offended by anything. You have to present him as a person you care deeply about, like your parents care about you.
You im 18 and dating a 30 year old can
No parent wants to hand over their child because face it, in their eyes you will always be a chil to what may appear to be some ill-meaning older man. I got lucky, my parents were completely supportive and surprised me in being so. Your parents may surprise you too, and I certainly hope they do.
If not, stand strong, I faced a lot of difficulties from my friends and I learned quickly that you cannot let it get to you or your relationship will suffer.
I am proud to say my boyfriend and I, depsite the 15 year age difference, are engaged and just had our 2 year anniversary, so be positive, I hope the same for you.
IM DATING A 15 YEAR OLD \u0026 IM 18...
And to anyone who wonders how relationships like this happen, they do. I am not saying every person becomes a magic adult when they turn 18, but some people possess more maturity than others, relationships with age differences happen all the time. What do we have to talk about?
Many things. Anything is possible, and I hear opposites attract sometimes too. Do not judge, since one day you may be in the same position.
Anon July 22,am. Yes, it may be true for most year-olds, but not all. It may not be the same for most other people my age, but not all. Louie July 22,am. You are not giving credit to the guy who appears to be treating her well. Just wanted to comment that I was 18 and he was 30 when I got together with my boyfriend. Speaking as someone with experience, the biggest obstacle you need to prepare for is the different relationship needs an older person and a younger person have.
My boyfriend and I have had to find a lot of middle ground; he was looking to settle down and marry, I was looking to see the world and go to college. Amy July 26,am. People keep mentioning the maturity of the girl involved as being an important factor but I wonder about the maturity of a man who falls for a teenager?
I suspect the physical allure of a young girl, coupled with a possibly less challenging emotional component is a big attraction. As a parent of a 20 year old and a 16 year old, I would be concerned that an adult who is attracted to a teen is probably not terribly mature themselves. Of course, individual situations vary, but most of the young women involved with older men defend their own maturity and I just wonder about what the attraction for the male is?
By: Dear Wendy July 18, Columns 96 comments.
Sorry, that im 18 and dating a 30 year old really. join
My boyfriend turned 30 a few days ago and I turn 19 in a couple months. I believe that at least for a while, my parents will be strongly disapproving.
What is the best way to deal with that, and are age differences in a relationship really all that taboo? I would have thought you were much older, your posts are always full of wise advice! Heaven forbid you ever, ever, use the f-word! Just understand that his cooking you dinner is not the same as you two cooking together.
That being said, early on, a lot of the magic so to speak is due to the appeal of their age. So just keep your inner-psycho on a leash for a couple months, kay?
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