I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. We have a great relationship. The best relationship I have ever had, so much love and respect. We moved in together 4 months ago, and things have been going great. Better than I thought. I was afraid that moving in would alter the good relationship we had because once you move in with someone their expectations change. I love this man with everything I have and he has shown me he feels the same.
Look he said a lot of things in the past and so have I. I met this guy in January. We meet every weekend. Never met any of his friends but did have the opportunity a couple of times before. We get on really well. We do have sex almost every time we meet. Do I continue waiting for him to be ready for something more serious or do I just be his friend and end the good sex? See how he responds. Then we met and in first meeting which was for 2 min we just shook hand and saw each other.
Very often, men love to be in relationships and are quite content to be a loving, kind companion to their partner. Love can blind you. I broke up with my boyfriend on text a few days ago, i dont know if that is really appropriate because we are on a long distance relationship.
I already met his family for several times and met my family too for so many times. I can feel his sincerity but im still confused. I still have doubts. He always told me and talked about us settling down after 2 years but im still confused, and i still keep on doubting him. Still doubting his sincerity. What should i do? I need some advice. I have being dating this guy since October last year, I have spoken with his mom twice on phone and even with his friends and colleagues in his office but since December he started acting funny.
He used to call me every now and then even during work hours. Did I over react? Advice pls. The guy I was seeing scored 2 out 5. He truly threw me off and pretty much deceived me. When we first met, he commented on how women do not give him a chance and how he is cursed with the bad luck of being a nice guy.
I was afraid to date people since I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship with a narcissist. I decided to give him a chance since he insisted that he was different. Overall things were going great he took me to meet his family for Christmas and the after that he asked me to be his girlfriend after we were dating for a few months. A week after he asked me to his girlfriend I noticed the we started communicating less and he was not making plans to do things with me.
So basically all his hobbies he was leaving me out of it. I confronted him and he said that he was not ready for a relationship. He said that I was the perfect of his ideal woman and that in the future it would me. To me that is wrong to create false hope to someone because if you know someone is special to you, committing to them should not be a hassle.
I tried to be polite and leave it as a friendship. That turned to be a bad idea because he kept on making comments that we would get together in the future. I do not want to be a backup plan for anybody, to me I rather be single and not be involved with anybody and is pretty selfish for someone to do this to somebody. I am sure this is probably what truly happened to him and he is too dumb to realize that the reason why women leave is because of his commitment issues and not the BS excuse that he is being dumped for just being a really nice guy.
He says he cares for me a lot and may perceive it as love one day; that he sees it as a strong possibility but cannot say either way. I feel like, when you know, you know. I cannot bear to be hurt again. You are not blowing it. Trust your instinct. Your logic is right on. If he doesnt know now he will never know. Thats not to say he is not allowed to change his mind later because people are allowed to change their minds but they are only accountsble when they make up their minds.
Does that make sense? If he need more time to decide about being in a committed relationship he can do that without you. I had exactly the same scenario, it hurt me a lot as he was my perfect match so was I according to him. The sad truth is they play the victim but you start noticing why women walked out. The guy was not ready for a relationship.
Ive been dating a guy for 2 years
He is also an amazing guy. You have to decide for yourself. So he rolled over and just went to bed. Help me. I was dating a guy for two years. It was a long distance relationship. I saw him every weekend for the first year then every second weekend. He kept telling me they knew about us.
His daughter had a baby so I made her a blanket them I messaged her on Facebook to see if she got it. She said she had and thanked me. A few days later he emails me and tells me to never contact his daughters again and thst he wants nothing more to do with me and it was over. Just curious- did you ever find out why he flipped out on you? Wondering if he had a secret life- another gf or wife?
I hope you have and continue to heal. I disappear for days or weeks or longer and act like no big deal. I refuse to kiss him. Well, I have a semi interesting and new situation. Met someone in the Virgin Islands on a 3 month trip, we were inseparable.
I came home to deal with some business and due to return in December. This am we spoke and he pretty much said he does not see things going long term. When I asked what changed, he said, you have a whole life in LA and it made me see this might not be possible. I just said, I hear you. I said that I was not going to be comfortable continuing just a friendly sexual relationship but just friends was ok.
I am going out there dec. He takes me out, he calls or texts or sexts, daily. He said if he cant have a relationship its not about me but that he just needs to focus on him for a while.
I do not want that again. What do I do? I need advice. I have met his family He always calls and checks in, I rarely if ever message him first. We are very sexually compatible and flirty still over the phone. I know you answer people sometimes and I want to get it right. The problem is he tells me he needs time and one day we will be together then tells me hes got no emotions and doesnt care about anyone because he ex wife hurt him so im always getting mixed signals. Im heart broken but i feel that im wasting my time coz i never know how he feels l.
Any ideas ladies or gents? When we first started hanging out we were together everyday. We both were tied down to other people at the time but clearly preferred being with each other. So, at first we quit talking for a couple of weeks, then months, but no matter what, I would move, change my number not to avoid him I just did it for other reasons but no matter what he always ALWAYS seems to find me somehow and weezle back into my peaceful life.
That and the ones I do I just am not interested in. I know for a fact he has his phone glued to him because he needs it for work. Could he actually have feelings for me still and is just standoffish because of our history, or is he just feeding me some lines to try and keep me on stand by when he gets the urge.
How long do I wait? My guy works overseas for 6 weeks and comes back for 4. A routine of 30 years. I have known him almost 3. So am I. Your advice? I need advice on how to act with a new guy. Had I come across this article 5 years ago I can almost guarantee I would not be in a relationship with my boyfriend let alone be living with him Met him at a very rough time in my life, failed relationship after the other - granted in hindsight I was very insecure, needy and desperate for validation that a man wanted me.
We agreed to be friends with benefits, I ran after him like a desperate little school girl even drove an hour almost every weekend from my hometown just to see him, he was unemployed, broke and in massive debit due to his exhe made me feel good, happy, wanted, desired and he made me laugh till it hurt. Total infatuation! And then about 2 years on, there was a bit of a medical scare, this totally changed the dynamic between us.
And all the things in the article happened, and I mean every single one! I knew he was seeing and sleeping with another woman, it was pretty obvious when everyone we associated with when we went out would mistake me for her Nice right? But he denied it to the end - naturally. The lies and truth all slowly came out about a year later.
So 3 years on and I start really evaluating everything and it hit me like a ton of bricks on New Years Eve - when once again he had disrespected, belittled and humiliated me in the club by practically throwing himself at a woman who was old enough to be his grandmother, what the hell am I doing here!? And how pathetic am I to hang around hoping he would see how much I loved him. So I did what the younger more confident me use to due.
Have him his personal things back - keys and that - to the last of the cash, went to the bar spent it all on tequila and danced my ass off. He kept looking for me but I was just so disguised with him at that point that it would have lead to blood being shed.
Sep 16, I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. Everything was AMAZING almost the whole 2 years until the last weeks. I assume we spent too much time together and formed boring habits and the spark 'went out' unfortunately that happened at a very stressful time in our lives (college finals, his student loans racking up, pressure to get jobs, ect) so we started taking our stresses out on 5/5. May 16, For others it might be a year or more. After a year, a guy should have a pretty good idea of who you are and whether he wants to be with you for the long haul. There might be extenuating circumstances why he's not ready to pop the questions, but he should know if . I've been dating my boyfriend for two years now as well, and there's honestly nothing to be depressed about-that will just make the issue more real than it actually is. Surprise him! Take him out for the day. And-not to stereotype here-but a lot of guys tend to get a .
Well that was the straw that broke the camels back. I went back to work and home the following day, totally devastated that I had let myself be used, made a fool of and disregarded for so long.
That I had become so insecure that he could basically treat me like garbage and I kept running back. About 2 weeks later he sent me a text begging me to talk to him - simple straight forward answer I am not ready to talk to you but when I am you will see me in person. In that time I really looked back on everything that had happened and who he was. Finally saw him for the emotionally damaged, insecure, low self esteemed and needy person he actually was, not the loud outgoing jokester that he pretended to be in public.
We were like two ships stuck in a storm being pushed together by the waves that was our childhoods. And the realization that I did actually want to be in a relationship, get married, have children, be respected, loved, valued and desired by a man who wanted the same things was confirmed for me the night before I went to see him again.
Two weeks of living on coffee, no food and zero sleep can help boost a girls confidence especially when you lose 20kgs. Boy was it good to actually say it all with out shedding one single tear too. When I was done he started speaking but only broke down in tears, begging for forgiveness and a second change to prove to me that he wants and can be the man that I want.
Which I hold him to till this day every time he treats me like before. Besides it reminds him that I choose to be with him because I want to not because I need to A few months later he got a great job, threw himself into it, worked hard and excelled at it, his confidence levels rose, the felt like a man again and it showed.
He was happy with himself again and with life. My insecurities reared their ugly little heads and I lost my job, pushed him away and basically had a little of a melt down. Naturally communication came to stand still, intimacy is none existent and the resentment started building up again. The point of sharing this story is that we all have our own insecurities, baggage and fears that will pop up once in a while - we are human after all - the important thing is to really be honest with yourself about what they stem from or whom and acknowledge that you are not perfect and use your insecurities to find what it is you really want in life.
Sometimes we need to stop and take a step back to really see the other person for who they are or could be if there is a mutual desire to change for ourselves.
Be forgiving of yourself and others, love and respect yourself first and foremost, never let anyone make you feel invisible, and to see both sides of a story. I have a man in my life who truly loves, accepts, understands, cares and respects me in everyway. He provides for me, gives me shoulder to cry on when I need it, lets me have my PMS mood swings without taking it personal, he values and appreciates me.
We have our arguments, sarcastic little jokes and silent treatment tiffs occasionally but we always apologize to each other and take responsibility for what we say. We have grown together these past 2 years, in a way I think we saved each other from ourselves, he showed me how to be less emotional more rational and I have taught him to feel his emotions not think his way through them. I still remember the exact moment I fell in love with him - when he let his guard down and let himself be vulnerable for the first time as he shared all the tragidies, pain and growing up feeling totally unloved and unwanted, it all made sense to me then why he was the way he was, and while we watched a beautiful sun rise creep up over the city skyscrapers of Johannesburg on a spring morning I knew then that no matter what the future holds for us, I will never be the same again and the love between us would change both of us in a profound way to the likes that neither one of us actually fully realized yet.
The guy I have been seeing for a long time gives mixed signals. He says he doesnt want a relationship but I have met ALL his friends and family.
Mother brother aunts uncles father his kids his kids mom etc and I love them all like they are family. How backwards is that! We take trips together outings with his kids and mine like a family. Cook outs, get togethers but he still isnt ready.
WTH is this? Part of me wants to move on and part dont. I feel like I have everything I want but the title. But they would get the short end of the stick because we are always together.
We go out on dates. I just dont get it. Its confusing. We also have a business together. Its like wtf do I do. DO I end it and move on because he wont give me a title or do I just enjoy what we have? I want the damn title. Id like to get married again but knowing its just him and i committed secure is just as good right now. How can a guy give so much but not give anything? I disagree with this. I was like we do? That was that. The guy I was seeing not only introduced me to his family, but would talk about me to friends so much, that when I finally met them, they knew all about me and eager to meet me.
Despite really liking him and wanting to be with him, I had enough self-value to end things then and there. Ok so. I always do?!
For example: he has introduced me to his family, we are in an exclusive relationship, and I definitely know the real him as I am very interested and supportive with his goals etc so he shares them with me. Should I be worried that he is not investing? Am I a door mat? End the relationship. If you want someone to tell you they want to spend the rest of their life with you then end this relationship because that other guy is out there.
But guess wat now the guy calls anytime even on weekends h calls me h even text I took the back seat n gave him the steering in this relationship I told him that its up to him to make it work bcoz I tried so many times to make us work n h is the one who failed.
Well, scratch that! He is with me and totally faithful. My partner who i live with doesnt have chit chat and tell me things like how his children are as they have rang him or text i have to constantly ask him if they are doing ok or have they been intouch.
He never financialy gives me anything at end of a working week he makes me waight for days till i have nothing then i must ask for housekeeping money. He also doesnt involve me in conversation over taking any hols from work or if hes been intouch with anyone im constantly asking or guessing he always assumes about issues like well were you going and assumes ive made plans before finding out by asking me and at tea times he never asks children if they want tea and makes his own anyway leaving it up too me i need advice on what hes actually doing this for pls help with any advice thank you.
We reconnected on face book after knowing each other back in high school. I have 3 kids and one lives with me. My 8 year old son. Idk what the heck is going on. He is leaving for the 2 time to visit his daughter in Los Angeles and I was not invited.
Ive been seeing a guy for about 6 months and because of his work schedule we only see each other on Friday nights then he goes back to his place on Saturday morning because he works on Saturday nights graveyard shift Saturday through Wednesdays.
Is this a sign that this is not serious? He serenaded me. He played me a song he knows songs mean a lot to me that told me exactly how he felt about me.
He said through the song that he wanted me by his side always so he would never have to feel alone again. He also told me via the song that even though people had tried to keep us apart his familyhe wanted to make up for the lost time.
Sabrina, I have been dating a guy for three years. Long distance. And when we are together its great. I asked what the status of our relationship was and he said he wants to continue dating me. I told him that by now I had expected to move onto the next phase of our relationship which was living together and that continuing to be with him I was not seeing or expecting this to happen especially when I want to get married and have a family. This went on for 6 months.
We kept in contact every once in awhile and eventually picked up where we left off. Should I date other guys and wait till he comes back and see what his decision is? Or just move on? Hi Sabrina, The guy I am dating matches 2 and 3 out of 5. Do you think it is still a sign that he will never commit? I have some confusions about my guy friend we are really good friends from last 1year and on the other side we are friends with benefits also.
He does everything for me anything that makes me happy infact he says that he wants me to be happy and lighthearted. He says he wants to be with me forever. And he loves me as a friend.
Accept. interesting ive been dating a guy for 2 years idea
When I ask him does he love me more than a friend. But the prob is when he gets too drunk he says he loves me he sees his future with me as a wife and he wants to be a best son-inlaw etc. Says I have some problems my circumstances are not good neither fanacially nor personally I will not be able to fulfill your needs. And sometimes he reacts so irritated. And ya he has family problems and financial problems with himself. I got 4 out of the 5 signs.
He took me to meet his family for the holidays he surprised me on that one 2. He takes me on amazing, well thought out dates. He is open to me about himself, family, friends. And he doesnt disappear for days or weeks. He even jokes about he and I, as old people and all.
Like a boyfriend does. He gets little small jealousy bouts, if he sees guys checking me out. I have the classic situation, been with my boyfriend for over a year, however he took a sabbatical from work for a few months at the end of last year so we have just reconnected.
I lived with a male friend that only wanted to be friends but we slept together and he never take me out anywhere and i wanted more. Over the months i feel enlove with a man that has anger problems and nasty person that dont take care of hiself. Hes a felon ans getting ssi no job whatsoever and a failer of treating women so i left him be hind to get with my clingy enlove ex boyfriend who is a drug addict. Not the best choices.
He is always telling me how much he loves me, he opens up to me and he does put the effort in when we go out on dates. The problem is that he works nights, so I only see him once a week. He keeps putting off meeting my mother and I have yet to meet any of his family.
Am I wasting my time here or is there some way of talking to him that will make him realise how important this issue is for me? Right now I am close to giving up on him because this behavior implies that I am not a priority in his life. I have known this guy for about 10 months now and had been in love with him ever since i met him for the first time.
I am a girl not into dating a lot of men, i had been on very few dates and had a bad experience into relationship wit a guy in the past. However i felt relieved but could never move on. See him, but see other people too. Keep busy.
5 Dating Stages ALL Men Go Through
Have a life outside of dating and by all means;Make yourself date other people!!!! Except for an aunt. When I got into a romantic and sexual relationship my family relationships became even more strained. In short, while all of these points are great points and make a lot of sense in general terms, number 5 especially can become a lot more complicated if one or both people in a relationship are trans with conservative families and there are any further strains and complications on the situation.
I think this article especially could be made much more inclusive to people with less privileged backgrounds.
Nothing is ever as simple as this. Hey Pertunia! Your problem here is your addiction to the jerk. Do whatever you can to move on. Why should he? Move On and start dating others immediately, no matter how bad it hurts.
Your life and quality of life is at stake here. Kick this guy to the curb. If he really does love you, he will come after you, if not, good riddance to bad rubbish. Do whatever you can to break that awful heroin type of relationship addiction!
I know this guy at gym. He works at a fitness school. The first time we have met I was shy and more fat etc. He told me lessons about life and was very curious about me. Well for me it was love at first sight tho for him probably not coz I told him I like him. But he didnt like me that way tho he liked my personality and me being spontanous.
We talk like everyday on whatsapp eventhough not big texts. We see movies at my home he saw all my friends well he did see my whole life and still is close. He teases me a lot like a lottt and touches me a lot etc.
But from his side I just saw one of his best friend. I dont know him that much as he know me. Its frustrating for me especially I cant move on easily coz my mom likes him too and always ask to meet they asume im with them too and cHat with him too which i think is awkward. And he always give me hope.
So what to do!? Im lost. Hey girl, I have exactly the same advice for you as for Zanya etc. Get OUT!!!!! This guy is not into you and he is using you.
So? ive been dating a guy for 2 years consider
I cried out for attention constantly never got a dinner or a movie never a hug out of the blue. I cannot describe the way he made me feel. BUT since then he makes sure we spend everyday together. If we plan to go on a bike ride, but the weather is bad, he cooks me breakfast instead. He is constantly texting and calling me, taking me out to eat, going on trips with me.
We talk about our futures, our dreams our hopes our fears. In fact the last time we broke up, he started to see the world more like I see it, things that are important to me he has started to do, learning languages, anti- human trafficking, non-profits He wants to start a business together and we always make travel plans together.
He has signed up to be in classes with me next semester and he serves me all of the time- he spent 2. I love him- but do I need to let him go? That, today at the end ofMcKenzie, is my story! He has clearly said he does not want responsibility of a relationship right now, and he doesnt want to feel the need to report to someone all the time. Okay so I should just believe he is not ready to commit?
What about if he does do these things above and has told me he is not ready? One and four he has done as well. Then he has also done 3 and 2.
He has gone MIA for almost a day and recently almost two days. So what am I supposed to believe? Lily, I am in the almost exact same boat. Maybe we can exchange stories. I wish I could figure out if I would be better off just moving on. But I am falling inlove with him after 6 months. I just can not believe that it is me. I have asked him to his face do you just not want to be with me? And he says that is not it.
It is that he is not ready to commit. We spent holidays and vacations together. He took me to family weddings and celebrations. He was jealous any time I started seeing someone. He would send me flowers, buy me gifts, take me out on dates. He would call me and keep me on the phone for hours, then make plans with me, act mushy, tell me how beautiful I am, AND then tell me he did not want a relationship right now.
This cycle was endless and soul-crushing and maddening. I wrote him off a year ago, telling him everything I felt and that I did not want to keep in touch anymore, secretly believing he would come chasing after me.
He did not.
So maybe that is what I would tell you to do. Lay your feelings out there for him, walk away, do NOT call or text or email. I hope it works out better for you than it did for me. Was it worth it?
Or did you regret anything. If you had the chance to do better would you? We are together for about 5 months now. Overall it looks good. And i met his child a couple times.
But in the same time, he always says he wants the relationship to remain simple. To keep things simple. I told him I was happy with the way things were, tht i was just saying something that i feel because i like spending time with him. What should I do? Until our 5th yr his sister told him what he was doing wasnt healthy for him or I.
We have fun loving relationship fishing, singing, kidding around, very loving to something said taken the wrong way to an explosion argument but this time I left his home this has happened 2x this last event has left me feeling what am I doing? Am I just paranoid? I need some outside thoughts. Hey Elizabeth, your guy has a sort of passive form of borderline personality disorder.
So sell your house and get away from the abuser. I know its hard I have been in the same situationbut you need to move on. Take your heart back and find someone who can treat it the good way in which it needs to be treated.
Liz, any time a guy tells you that you deserve better, believe him. Keep it moving, girlfriend. You can indeed do better. I would want a man with a job and car too so we both can split things equal, the dates, food etc. From a guys point of view, sometimes us males like to get all our ducks job, career, life direction, etc in a row before taking on additional responsiblities wife, kids, etc.
So much for soulmates and true love. Guys need time to line things up. Then get the girl. Nurture focused on building up reserves of food and cloth, rather than just about direct love. To be themselves.
Jun 25, I've been finding it interesting, that most of the articals that I've read on this subject, and there has been a lot. They seem to all be talking about the woman/mistress being the played and pathetic of the "relationship". I've been involved with a married man for 19 months. We have been long distance friends for about 18 years. Read this: Why You Absolutely Must Date More Than One Guy At A Time Read this: This Just In: Your Guy Doesn't Give A Damn About These 10 Things Read this: 25 Men Recall The Time They Refused A Woman's Sexual Advances Read this: I Slept With A Guy For Two Years Hoping He'd Commit And This Is Where It Got Me [ ].
His friends, and mine. Not just two halves. Liz, your guy might also have some PTSD from his deployments which is making him feel unsure and mentally unstable. As a friend to him, see if he is willing to see a mental health professional as he might be suffering PTSD and might need to have therapy or meds. And start with mg for the first few days 1 dropperfull and after a few days work up to mg 1 dropperfull in am and 1 dropperfull in pmthen after a few days work up to mg 2 droppers full in am and 1 in pm and then after a few days work up to mg which is the USRDA so 2 dropperfulls in am and 2 dropperfulls in pm.
At this point, I would just see him as a friend and move on to date other guys. Something has happened to him in his brain to make him unsure of things eg anxiety and until he gets his anxiety treated he will be unsure anxious about everything and everyone. So help him out if you can by suggesting these things, but take care of yourself and detach and force yourself to start dating others.
People who are not right in the head for whatever reason will not be able to be a good romantic partner. So take care of yourself and see that you stay right in the head, suggest counseling for him, and move on to others. Maybe after he gets some mental health treatment and supplements himself with magnesium and foods high in B complex and Folate, after a while he might get calm and sane enough again to see what a great girlfriend you would be for him. So right now move on and date guys who can see what a great catch you are.
Me and my friend joe have been intimate since july 23, I have met a lot of his friends,his parents and have spent time with him and his daughter which he has custody of. My roommate has caused arguements between us causing jealousy issues with me and joe.
My roomate said joe had been hanging out with his x he broke up with a few months before we started dating. I ignored it and then we were at a friend of his and she shows up. Both breasts removed and a total hysterectomy.
We got in a big arguement once and joe kept on saying he isnt anyones boyfriend I believe to hurt my feelings.
Sorry, ive been dating a guy for 2 years removed (has mixed
We have went camping which was a very relaxing romantic night for both of us. A few wks later we got in another arguement and he told my roomate my texting him all the time irratates him. So I stopped and left him alone. We are on speaking terms and he sometimes comes over watches tv with me and we end up having sex. I normally am the one to text him.
About to let him go and just see where I stand. Lonely and scared. Girlfriend get with the program. I know guy from high school. He told me that he is crush on me since high school. And he say he really like me. I thought of him like as friend. He really want me so badly. He and I started talked and text almost every day in past few months. He was asked me go out with him for drinking. I went out with him. Nothing serious. Few month later. I decided invited him to come my house and its happen.
I feel I should not first place with him. He text me and told me that he falling in love with me. So I decided go ahead to see him 2 times a day every weeks. We have good time. I have feeling for ready for relationship. I did asked him about relationship.
He is worried what they say to him and will hurt his feeling. Hr jave very sensetive feeling. This started month when I text him and he did not response back and sometime he text for short.
Think, ive been dating a guy for 2 years Tell
Its very less for him to text. He used text me all the timed. Whats happen? I feel what do i do? Should I stop text him and leave him alone? Why not? What is the hold up? What is he waiting for? Have you and he talked about meeting his mother, father, and siblings? What has happened during the holidays, such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter? Where is he and where are you spending the holidays? This raises a red flag, and it can be resolved immediately.
Sit down with him and ask him the same questions I have raised. Find out what is going on and why he has waited this long, or what he is waiting for. What matters is my love for you. If he is spending a lot of time with his own family, and they are asking about you, then he needs to make a meeting happen.
Girl, something is not right. Also, what is the real status of your relationship? So, is he with you to pass the time, or he is serious about making you his wife? But, I want to know why did you wait this long to make it an issue? Why move in with him without meeting his parents first? Oh, hell naw! Girl, tell him to invite his family over to your home for dinner or lunch this weekend. Or, he arranges to take you with him the next time he spends significant time with them.
Resolve this today. The hell is wrong with you people.