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Most of us give in to the pressure-doing our best to become as interesting as possible-while some of us just wait until they really find someone who matches their soul. They send pictures, or short definition of a person to somehow make me interested. Different people have different reasons and I know for sure that those are all for their good attempt to help. Some say that relationships that started this way can still work, but what are the odds? What are the odds of success if both of you have pasts that are not dealt with?

I am nosyand I want to know if he is a serial cheater or if I was the firstalso if she found out. Would he even tell me the truth? He hurt me. If it had gone on longer, it would have taken me down even more.

In my dream world, we would have loved each other and been best friends for the rest of our lives, but I think it might have lasted a few years, maximum. I have thought about seeing him for the sex part onlyIt was intoxicating.

It would take me right back into the bad situation. Before, I was innocent as a girlfriend. Mich, I can only suggest that you read some of the many stories below to try to figure out what might be happening. I am glad you found this group of people mostly women who have experienced so much and share advice, pain. I still come here for support, even though I think I am done with him.

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Picked myself back up and wiped my own tears. I have grown from things meant to break me. I get stronger by the day and I have God to thank for that. Make them wonder how you are still smiling. Hey Ladies, who wants to create a life with your MM and is always questioning whether he will leave his wife for you?

Yet, I cannot seem to leave him or forget him or ignore him. Being in this situation sucks. And yet again, I cannot seem to get out. I love when we talk and just talk nonsense and all that, but when I do not hear from him, I am super sad.

I want to get over him but I cannot even end the affair; not yet. I should know better. Love makes u do stupid things; you really go blind. This is not love. He is wasting your time. I saw a MM for 2 years and 9 months. He lied on Day 1 stating his marriage was over and moving out. Only during the pandemic did he move out of the marital home to care for his blind father.

Yet kept going back to fix things and even took a family trip with his wife and adult kids and grandkid. But kept lying to my face that he would file for divorce.

Yet said I was his true love and escape from the bills and reality of her and his dependent adult kids. After many attempts at leaving him. He would have meltdowns and bombard me with calls and texts and emails. I threw out all of his items and gifts in my home.

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I changed my mattress and got new bed sheets, quilts and lamps. I ended face to face with MM. Started convo only with other men on dating apps and told MM. Also made clear that I would file a police report if he pulled the texts, phone calls and email campaign again. You must heal away from the toxic selfish MM. Listen to Stay by Sugarland. It has me sobbing. This song reminds me of all of us.

Hi Jazmin, I just read the lyrics. OMG, you are right - this is us. Why must the affair be so difficult to break? I am feeling so much sadness and lost and confused being in an affair I am married, unhappy and in sexless marriage but I cannot move on and leave my MM. Is wait! Wait for that next call or text, wait for the next visit. What a waste of 14 years!! At first I was fine with it. Nothing was going to come of it.

And what do I have to show for it nothing. Nothing but lies, secrets, tears, and heartache. I ask myself all those questions too. And after a few days one of us gives in and reaches out. Texting, calling and stopping by. He knows he weakens me and I give in. I really do just need to block him and not let him in when he stops by. HI Ladies! I needed some advice. All answer I got from him? Sorry if I hurted you so much, I love you and sorry if not possible to be together.

These holiday times are so hard. I just came in from working in the compost pile and some gardening. Dinner with a girlfriend this week, car getting worked on, exercising, a haircut. Definitely always enough to stay busy. Angie- Good for you! I wish I could make it past a week. Hurts my heart so much. I tell myself everyday I need to stop this. I keep trying to search within myself as to why I keep this going.

What am I lacking in my life. None of us do. We all deserve to be loved, to be the only one! Ive loved him for some time. He should have quit seeing me when he met her and it is the stringing me along and lying that has caused so much pain.

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Winonag,I will try to offer some advice, but it sounds to me that you are experiencing a lot of good feelings with the MM at this time, so that makes it hard to quit. I would say to read through the many, many experiences of people here and think about those scenarios if they were to happen in your future.

There is a lot of hurt, loneliness and damage to oneself that comes in these situations. I am thankful to God that mine only lasted 6 months. If it had been a year or more, it might have killed me. This addiction to the pleasure is like a drug.

That is a horrible feeling! End it while you are on top!! If you have not been involved with him all that long, I say, try hard to end it. If your husband finds out, what will his reaction be? Will you split? Do you wish to be single?

Just try to think about possible outcomes. The last thing I will say is that it sounds like MM laid down the rules. Mine was sort of that way and I went along with his rulesa strong man is attractivebut he is seeing that you are submissive to him. I was alsountil I stood up for myself and said no more. If you feel you want to not be married, then possibly seek a divorce. My ex guy said he takes good care of those he loveshe is great at keeping the home, vehicles, etc in top notch condition, BUT.

It is devastating. Please read the devastation in the many stories bled and cried onto this blog. Your situation will not be spared the pain. The sooner you can break the addiction, the easier it will be for you. Angie- just wanted to say, your advice to WinonaG is bang on! Never easy especially when we see the MM as an extremely unhealthy addiction. Honestly, women like you are keeping me strong. Thank you for that! Thank you, thank you!

Hi Angie and all, thank you for the comments and responses. They are helpful and very encouraging to know that the pain will go way eventually, and that really having an affair with a MM is bad and toxic.

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Him and I have been together almost 6 months and it has been 6 months of all emotions. Unfortunately as of today, we are still communicating and I am trying my best to find the courage to go NC with him. This MM is a narcissist and manipulative; I know that he is not a good person to me but it just feels good to be with him. But I also know I need to end our affair, and whether I stay with my husband or not is unknown at this time. I really do not know if I will stay with my husband.

We have not really been communicating and we have been cold to each other. Yes we are in same house, but lately I have been sleeping in another room so I can avoid him.


I get upset knowing that he is with his own family when I knew from beginning he was married. It is affecting me emotionally; I cry for no reasons and I miss him a lot. I wish I can be with him all the time. I wish I had not been emotionally attached to him. Hi all! I am married and having an affair with a married man. I am very into the MM and love him and my feelings for my husband have gone away and I feel indifferent towards the husband.

We both agreed families come first and we would not leave our families. While my MM gives me the high, he also makes me sad and depressed and confused. I miss him like crazy and wish I could spend more time with him but I know it is impossible. I do want to get out of the affair but I just do not know how. I am so afraid of the pain. I was very sad and completely shattered. He gets me and I get him. I can be so open to him and tell him anything. I wish my husband would be like him; I wish my husband would be more fun and thrilling but he is not.

I am feeling really lost and depressed and confused. I love my MM but hate him at the same time.

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How did you ladies really end the affair? I cannot even last a day without talking to him. I miss him like crazy. Ladies and gents, please help me go in the right direction. Thank you! Your situation sounds identical to mine. I ended things for good two weeks ago, after many failed attempts over 2. I am married and so is he. My husband is a good man, he has his flaws but so do I. The thrill of it all made me feel like it was love.

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It felt like he was the person I needed in my life instead of my husband. You said you feel indifferent towards your husband, I know that feeling all too well as it definitely came in heavy waves after the MM entered my life! And as a result we feel that we are indifferent or out of love with them.

We forget all the positive qualities and look for the things that make them inferior to the MM. As soon as I end it with the MM, I am a mess for a period and then i stabilize and my emotional and physical attention is able to return to my husband. And I see him for all the good that he is and does for me. I was shocked, why would he ask this? That hit me hard. Not saying this is a hard and fast rule, but it could very well be the case for you too. We also have to realize that we are guilty of painting pictures of the MM in a beautiful light.

The husband you marry, you know - the good, the bad and the ugly. I just needed to put that out there, i will never go back to the MM again. And I am looking forward to rebuilding my marriage, my boundaries and my sense of self to be stronger and never allow temptation and fleeting desire to take over in this way. We are human and make mistakes, we are not bad people, but we also have to learn from the errors we make in order break a cycle of shame, guilt, rollercoaster highs and lows and inevitable disaster.

Hi Mila, thank you for your reply. I agree that most women find it difficult to love two men at the same time.

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Our emotional connection and physical connection is all great! But I have to think about how bad it is for me and I know we are not leaving our families so this is not going anywhere, and is it really worth to be in this affair relationship? I cannot believe we have lasted this long though and he keeps telling me we will never break up. I am not ready for it. Jan, Just an observation from outside the situation.

It seems amazing to me that he could be so bold to marry and flaunt it, when his life could be blown up by you. Would he do anything drastic to keep his lying side private? I know of a woman whose husband hired a hit man to do her in. The police told her and husband ended up killing homself when his plan was exposed. Just be safe and stay aware. Angie Thanks for your post.

He has nothing to be concerned about. I will not do anything to spoil things for him. He is not part of my life and I am glad to be away from him and his lies.

God will protect me and heal my heart. No more wondering.


They are happy, good for them. Good riddance to bad rubbish. My last post for a few days, because I am no expert, but am glad that I can hopefully show some strength that might encourage another woman. Some of the names here, who posted lateI suggest you read. Ley, Neveragain. Just a bit from their posts. He sent a text out of nowhere, ending it.

Not face to facea text. Getting slowly better. I did too. End of visit, they drive home to their wives, kiss the lips they kissed me with and other things look her right in the eyes and lie, like he lies to me.

Dating these MM is killing us slowly. The wife didnt win. He had a whole other relationship. Neither woman benefits from a cheating man, so try not to be jealous. The wife may post happy pictures on social media, but it is not the truth.

It is what people want others to see. Those bits stuck with me. Angie, you are an Angel. Ive had to go to work and pretend to be alright. Truth is I was nothing close to alright. He had no need to keep me dangling like a toy wind chime that he would knock into whenever he felt to pass by.

If they knew the truth she would be devastated and scandalised. That I sent not my way so let him continue to live a lie. He has already cheated on her the whole time she said known him with me and God knows there must have been other women too. Ive been unable to eat, unable to sleep, been going to work on either zero sleep or a few hours only.

In 7 days I smoked 41 cigs. I gave up over 2 years ago. I fainted from exhaustion yesterday and my son is the one who picked me up off my doorstep, picking up the pieces left by that evil barstard. I feel revolted by memories of us being intimate, revolted and used.

Everything was a lie. The only real things were the gifts he bought and they are nearly all in the trash and gone. He was practicing a deliberate strategy of casual meaningless recreational sex with me for over 4years. His new wife got the rolls Royce of treatment right from the start. He likes women who can make him look like someone better so with her connections his ego can become engorged by his self worship.

I have 3 main supporters who care for me. They encourage me to eat, listen when I vent, understand my pain and say yes cry let it out. He wiped his eyes as she cane down the aisle, that barstard. I agree, he is lucky she does not know the truth about how he has used and hurt women before they met and throughout their whole relationship since the day they met. I let him know he is lucky that I am not one of those women who would have posted the truth so she would know.

No, any revealing of what he really is will come out in some other way.

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An imposter who crept into my bed and out again behind her back. I just want to thank every single one of you for helping me to get throughout this living nightmare. To the women still involved with a man you know is not right, let my experience wake you up. I loved a man who tricked me and left one wife or was already divorced when we met.

He bought her a very expensive triple diamond engagement ring and popped the question in a high end restaurant then took her back to the hotel room for romantic sex, they had sex everywhere before that. He knew her 1 year beforehand the engagement. Do not trust those men. Wake up and get free, please.

I feel your pain I really do I was with my mm for 5 years and we left our partners for one another. I fail every time I try to break it off. I always tell myself this is the last time. I want to be done. I was in your shoes. Every time I ended it with MM, he would have a melt down. He would send texts, emails, call my cell and house phones non-stop.

I would give in out of fear of what he would do to myself or himself. But he is NOT ur responsibility. After 2 yrs and 9 months, I finally ended it and warned him if he pulled the bombard melt down tactic, I would call the police and file a stalking report!

Bingo- it worked. If he tries it, I will send the cops to his marital home with the restraining order. Game over. Reclaim your life and dignity from bottom feeder MM looking to use you as an escape. This is just a note for Jan. You have been on my mind since you discovered the devastating information. I know you are hurting so bad!! Please know that people are pulling for youpraying. Your very honest posts touch so many hearts.

Maybe this last painful thing will be enough to free yourself for peace, healinglots of healing. Right now, I see your wounds as fresh and bleeding, so surviving is what you have to do. Healing will take a long time, but it can happen. Prayers for all you ladies. New Summer outfit? Wishing you all peace. Awww good job! You give me hope! You are so strongplease keep goingIt makes me feel stronger reading your post!

Jazzmin, I looked up the song and the lyrics are so right. Thank you. Angie, it was on point. So many years wasted. I was talking to my friend last night about how I ended it and how it feels real this time. He never gets upset with me but this time he did. Anyways, I was telling her how I feel bad for involving by kids and having them around him. But my son asked me this weekend why does he only come over for a little bit then leave.

I made up an excuse like I always do. My family met him around the holidays 2 years ago and they really liked him. She told me to listen to this song: Ingrid Andress- More hearts than mine. I thought you all would like to hear it too. It made me cry but many songs do right now. Day 1. The thought of it makes my heart hurt and it makes me sick at the same time. And the worst part? I hate him and me. Listening to it while writing to you. The words are powerful! Im so glad there is such a group of women who feel the same.

I was trapped in this emotional rollercoaster for 9 YEARS I have been reading every single one of your comments and it takes me fully back to how painful and consuming this experience was, you have me in tears. My heart is with you all. Maggie - maggiemiller. Maggie- Have you been successful in not going to back? If so how long. Hey Jazzmin, First of all congrats!!

Taking that leap, even if its day one, is such a massive step to change!! Yes its early days, but seeing you made an internal commitment and acted on it, shows you are defiantly paving your way to eventually setting yourself free. I personally have been out 2 years! I have full faith that you can feel that! Giving you a big virtual hug through this challenging time. You got this! Hi ladies, I have been working hard to get over a married man.

I know how you are hurting. I have felt like I wanted to diebut I choose to keep going. I have pets and people who care about me and need me. I have found a few articles that have helped me. I will share, in the hopes that it might help you.

Open your heart to the love of God and the healing peace of Jesus. Accept His love and grace, His forgiveness and freedom. It's not easy to stop dating a married man, but it's the only way you'll find yourself again. You can and will move past this if you accept the . Dating, simply put, is exhausting. It sucks the time, energy and money from your life, even if you're enjoying yourself while doing it. And when you stop dating deliberately, you get that time, energy and money right back. Instead of actively dating in New York, I started signing up for classes. Searching out opportunities to meet friends. Nov 21,   When it comes to figuring out how long you need to heal before jumping into a new relationship, there isn't really one across-the-board, concrete answer. Each person heals in .

Maybe see yourself as the partner in article below. An article about infidelity as abuse: Inherent in the act of infidelity is chronic lying, scheming, manipulation, blame shifting and duplicity pretending to have feelings that his actions contradict-fake.

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The abuse of power through secrecy and control lies and manipulation denies the faithful partner ability to make informed choices. Unfaithful partner has a sense of entitlement- disregard for partners well being, tricking partner happy family pretense is a lie, sham. Can go on for yearsfaithful partner is in a fog, not truly understanding what is going on. The stress can make physically sick over the years. Jan, I can feel your pain. That new wife has no idea what she is in for. One woman gave this advice.

Take it! Your life can be at peace. I am praying for all the women here. While reading through the comments I saw that someone said they searched his social media. I decided to try it and The MM got re- married Last Year behind my back to a new wife he met on holiday a few years ago. I remember the holiday he went to with his family members, he was a third wheel to 2 couples.

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They went island hopping and he met someone. I must have been the occasional belly warmer for the past 4 years, the fall back clean up woman. God is good though because from last year I just had no intentions of letting him continue to use me. We slept together in February this year and now it makes sense why he was so cold to me afterwards. This was before I found out about his new wife.

He knows I know now, let me correct myself. He will know when he reads the emails tomorrow because he is surely in bed with his New freaking hot wife. I sent some controlled emails letting him know that I know and that it all makes sense now. Let this be a wake up call to all the women who think the MM cares.

Excuse my French, but what the F!!! The audacity it takes to do something like that. I mean they can fall out of love in their old marriage, they can stay attached still to them, they might be comfortable and stay and use us. This is somewhat rational still. But obviously falling in love and remarry and still contacting you, telling you you pushed him away.

What on earthhe is not quite right in the head. The MM i was with briefly was anxious he got his wife pregnant again while we were together. Which hit me like a hammer at the time. But what you are saying just is another level. Just be so glad you were somewhat detached already. Just leave as far as you can. If anything, this is prove. And thank you so much for telling your story. Thank you Francis. I think what happened to you finding out about the pregnancy is monumentally devastating.

These men are pathological and pschopathically master manipulators and see women as objects to use. They strategise and categorise women using their own classification methods with no thought or care for the damage caused. When we become unplayable they move on to others, leaving a trail of destruction behind. You are spot on! We worked together for the last ten years, although we originally met 7 years before that.

Anyway, he was just transferred to another building three weeks ago. I was devastated. Well, surprise!

Nov 24,   Stop Dating While You're Healing - Boiling Waters Stop Dating While You're Healing We all know that once we are already in our mid 20's, people around us will start to pressure us to find someone to love like its there's a job fair out there. stop dating while you're healing. heal first, then date. But while it's quite normal to have feelings of self-doubt once in a while, chronic insecurity can sabotage your success in life and can be particularly damaging to your intimate relationships.

I think that cutting off all communication is key. I wish you the best. Hi Amy. I will not live the rest of my life pining for a man who already has someone to love him. We are not second best, desperate or undeserving of real love with someone who cherishes us. I replied that he has hidden me in email so my msgs dnt pop up on his phone screen.

The spell is broken and I need to be free of him forever. They use us and devalue us at the same time, the empty words, secret gifts random or intermittent visits. That gift was a smokescreen, no matter what we get the wife gets better. My father cheated, so did his, they both stayed married leaving their lover so to get on with it and pickup the pieces. No nothing happened because my son was home thank God! I remember being in my early twenties and woman next door was seeing a married man and I shamed her for that!

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M sometimes. I thought I would be somebody wife now not a mistress! I think that when you have a affair it leaves permanent scars? I remember early on when I was with my M. But I was curious about her. But you know I found out? That her career means more to her then her family she had all pics of work and her clients and there names really? His page you see he so much in love with his family she front and center! I started to feel bad and started wishing I was his wife and had his love and devotion!

He was perfect in my eyes because I also saw my father in my M. M that really drew me to him! But I knew I had to let him go I was falling quick! Then after 7 yrs I finally told him I just Adore you!

That never leave your mind! And some weird way even after the Affair As Ended. Sorry my post was to long just venting.

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Any Good Ladies and try to stay strong! Tricia thanks for msging. That means he must have got divorced or lived apart from the original wife for the right number of years to be free to marry again.

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God help me please because i cannot take anymore concerning this man. He is by far the biggest liar I have ever met I cannot ant times elk you how it felt feels to see all the photos of him hugged up closer with her gushing about gown hot his Queen is.

She had his children and was with him before he became this so called successfu flashy fraudulently prick. I loved a liar. It looks like he hid that so he could be free explore and he found a new wife abroad. I can hardly catch my breath. I feel like lying down to die of a broken heart to be honest. He got married sept Thank you to all the people who have commented here it helps us to share and learn and get support. I know your hurting really bad right now but just know that [ Karma will take of your M.

God showed you the door because he is getting ready to open a new door! I know nothing I say can make you feel better now. Remember everyday is a new day. You just scream if you need to throw your plates if it makes you better! And in time go to gym and have them to give you dummie body and kick it Ass! Sending you Hugs and Good Vibes stay strong.

You women are amazing and kind hearted. New wife is planning on babies with him so maybe he will get his happy ending and maybe even become faithful. When I look in the mirror now I see a monumental fool. I just want to thank you all for your support, you are ALL amazing women.

He got me a bracelet once recently out of the blue and I had a strong feeling that it was bought as an extra while he was buying something better for someone else.

He looked so guilty when he took the jewellery bag out of his bag to hand to me. A girl you teenagers would love it.

The hurt about being lied to constantly, knowing none of it was real. What a dirty heartless hound. Now I see nothing with him was real, not one thing. Tricia thanks for sharing your experience. You can find lots of info on the Internet. I will leave off going into it so your research will be unbiased. Finding out how deceitful and fake that thing him I involved myself with has been devastating.

I remember certain times like him wanting me to go sickness from work to have sex as he had just returned from abroad! She nor I knew he was fooling us both.

She got the romantic experience, I got the mind baffling, exhausting senseless experience. I was after all just something to take the edge off while was on the hunt for a new wife. It takes a lot of energy to sleep with multiple women. The women in the dark are waiting and he will dish out the crumbs at his leisure then go home to his Queen.

I hope he will get exactly what he truly deserves. We had never gone more than 6 days. I realize i was addicted to the adrenaline rush he gave me. My son was as well. He was so charming and when he came my routine days was just turned up! Why did i deal with it for so long?

Sometimes hurt realizing it was fake. And he is living his life. I think when God sees us worship these men, he is jealous and disappointed and we get no peace until we leave. I valued him more than my loyalty to God. I forsakes what I knew was right for him. I went against my spirit for him. I have to realign myself and when someone comes they can be the icing on the cake but no longer the cake. Am dating a married man And we made a year last week but i am not happy with him still holding on because it involves financial attachments.

I sent him a break up text today but he said their must be something wrong with me am not thinking straight. Keep praying, you will find a solution. Let him think everything is okay until you find a way to leave. I do hope everything will work out for you. Thanks Jan i dont have a job now and am still studying in my final year. It was his birthday last friday I was so excited i made preparations ordered for a cake food bought gifts all ready for him because he had promised to pass by i waited untill late he dint show up with no explanation l was in the house stuck with my cake and food looking miserable and like a fool.

I hope it helps to know that we all care and you have our support. Hi all I posted a while ago now I was seeing my mm for 5 years constantly breaking it off. No explanation just gone and ignoring me.

I think that punk was a little more than slightly drunk because if anyone was going to be calling anyone horrible names, it should have been the other way around. MM are predators who target women who need love. They come on strong to disorient and overwhelm you. There was a time when I was offended by MM approaching me. MM see us as desperate because they get knocked back by women who will Not entertain them at all.

Once the MM gets used to you, when the thrill is gone and you start wanting a real connection like more quality time, they start to lose interest. The MM told me I was supposed to be an escape, one day when I was complaining.

I wanted closure when I quit seeing MM, he will Not give it. We let them control us ruining our lives. Jan, your comment is so true and I wish all the women and men, if there are any on this site would listen to everything you said.

There was no explanations or closure at all. I was happy to read what you wrote because everything you said was true. BraveHeart - you say you were devastated. Can you let us know what you did to heal yourself? I feel traumatized and have to go back to work with MM in the fall. Any emotional healing advice would be appreciated xx. Read about toxic men and how to break up the toxic relationship with a MM. Find a new job. Go no contact with MM.

If he persists contact police for a stalking complaint and retraining order. You have the right to be left alone to heal. How ironic, the whole time we involve ourselves with MM is pulling the short straw. Ive been so confused due to my many mixed emotions and accompanying behaviours eg adoring him, being angry with him, bombarding him with angry emails then worrying he wont want me as a result. We elevate these slimy creeps and worship them even though more than half the time they are absent physically and exist only in our minds.

I read these comments to give me inspiration to stay away from him completely. I want a real relationship or none at all. We must learn from this and never repeat it. We can learn from each other, so many have been in these horrid situations for a decade and longer.

We have to love ourselves first before ever looking to someone else otherwise it ends in tears. Jan, there are a few of us here who really write enlightening stuff which I viscerally can resonate, you are one of them. In short, my motivation to leave was largely due to the fact that he made me feel that he has cheated on me, overthinking what he had done behind my back.

I was disgusted, I hated myself, I felt used like many of us here. I thought that was it. But on the 7th mth, he used office messenger to say a hello, wondering how his friend me has been doing. I again self justified that he must have realized that he still wanted me after this longest total NC and so I responded and we met. I was heartbroken because he wanted to be friends, I said no and sorry that I had assumed his intention wrongly.

Another 3 months of total NC until last Xmas. Last Xmas, after he had pampered his W with a 2 wk long holiday in my favorite country copycathe reappeared, used another no to pursue me and I had believed him. Why am I still degrading myself being a chore? He made it easy to decide to quit. He said: can we relax, go slow and take it easy?

He accidentally blurted out that they met over gathering and in contact. So I cut him off starting this year after a storm discovering that he went drinking and a stroll with the ex. He could easily arrange to meet others but me yet turned to blame me for being possessive. I had enough because my insomnia and anxiety drained me physically, emotionally and mentally. Why and how did I cave in? He disengaged again gradually over the 10days. Each episode just clear up the mind fog easier especially when he gives nothing.

Those who stalks their W social media will know. I stopped doing so since the lockdown. Learn to live with them like cancerous cells already existing in our body but with good care, it remains dormant.

Nov 13,   Either close your legs and have a sex break or quit dating all together until you're ready to date differently. 2. You keep going out with the same types and ending up with the same results. Nothing. To. Show. Get to the root of why you keep going for your 'type' and change your habit. 3.

Nomad, it shakes me how much similarities there are in your experience and mine. He uses almost the same exact words. As for me, he gradually leveled me down. And he knew exactly what he was doing. The more he saw how bad it made me feel the less he cared. At the same time he was being nice and tried to keep up a friendship. And one can look at this, like at so many other facts, from different perspectives, but it made me almost go mad.

Feeling how he distanced himself.

Oct 29,   I had an upbringing full of severe abuse and neglect, including NPD mother and completely absent father. I went on to have abusive romantic relationships and the general pattern was Id date men who treated me like a trophy, did not care about me . 1) From the first date, each of us has both the right and the responsibility to stop the relationship if either of us feels that it's not working. 2) Explanation or justification is not necessary. Feb 20,   The part that's even harder than the initial break is healing from the trauma and trying to find love again. It's easy to say that we're not going to date again, but the chances of that happening are slim. You will meet someone who will captivate you and it'll be hard to ignore. Still the process of healing is a rocky Alexandria Brown.

Migrating our once super close and intimate relationship into a friendly one and at the same time putting me in a position to complain about it then assuming I was the one wrong simply almost made me loose my mind. There was a point where he complained why I was mad at him for telling me how good everything is going at home currently.

Long story short, we can overthink and complain so much. In the end, we Must force ourselves to do what we know is best. The mind must force the heart. And it will follow.

And i guess media does add a part to it. To make us think we must be head over heels and rescued by a guy like a soulmate. For some this may be true. For others it might not. I try to focus on my value I can give to this world. This toxic addiction consumes so much energy we can use for better things. If I can help others and not find this one true love.

This life was still worth it. In general we will leave when we really had enough. Sharon in NY on November 15, at am. Search for:. Was it my Jedi mind tricks? Brigget Croft on Podcast Ep. Tru on Podcast Ep. Learn More. This website uses cookies to improve your experience.

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